A Word To Wise Wives

“Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives…” 1 Peter 3:1

Women like to talk. Most men do too. But, in general, men like to talk about certain things, whereas women can talk about anything. And everything.

Gab may be a gift, but it’s one that should be used wisely. Especially if you’re a wife. Double especially if you’re a wife whose husband is not a believer. Everything in your heart wants him to open his. Perhaps the best way to help him open up is for you to shut up.

Actions speak louder than words. Maybe you’ve never considered this a divine principle, but Peter certainly confirms the theory with this verse. We can all talk a good talk. The people who don’t live with us, might just believe us. But it takes more than many words to win the one who shares your bathroom, your bed, and your bills.

This verse doesn’t say you shouldn’t speak. Or that you should never speak about God. It simply reminds us that those closest to us will listen best when we live better. “…that…they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” Purity means “with nothing mixed in.” Live so cleanly that your husband can see clear through you. As you do good, God looks great. Your reverence for God is revealed in respect for your husband. Your submission to his leadership shouts loudly of your love – and God’s. As he notices the difference in how you relate to him, he might respond to God.

As a wife, what you say should be supported by what you do. Even if your actions back up our words, saying too much will build up resentment and resistance.

Speak less. Show God more. Your husband will see what you’re not saying.

Time For A Little R&R
REFLECT
If all you’ve said about God in the past month was erased, what would your husband (or wife) know about God by what you’ve done?

RESPOND
If your spouse is a Christian, thank God and commit to cherishing him/her even more.
If your spouse is not a Christian, ask God to save your spouse and commit to showing him/her Jesus more by what you do than by what you say.