Friday, May 10, 2013

My Mother

At 11 o’clock today, a friend is burying her mom, and I’ve been thinking about mine.   Probably a good time to do so, since Sunday is officially Mother’s Day, but even if it weren’t, the lady who gave me life and filled it with love should definitely be honored. 

She’s really neat—my mom.  She is talented, patient, caring, and kind.  She is not easily angered—in fact, she’s hardly ever angered, and only seldom frustrated or irritated.  She is diligent, industrious, and rarely rests.   She cooks well, teaches well, listens well, and loves well.  I know this by experience, for I ate three meals a day for twenty years at her table, learned to read and write from her tutelage, spent many hours talking her ears off myself and lots of others seeing her share the concerns of others on the phone, in the living room, even at the grocery store.  (Somehow her face must say, “Tell me your problems,” for countless people have done so and have been helped by her counsel and care.)  My mom has more mercy than her three children combined and is kind to a fault.

My mom could never be a spy because she is a dreadful liar and can hardly bring herself to tell untruths even when they are shrouding a surprise.  (Even then, you can see straight through her duplicity, but such purity of heart is a beautiful thing.)   However, though she was a home economics teacher, then missionary, then amazing mom/church leader/Bible study teacher/best every Friday PTO hot dog server ever, closely watching her speedometer on Sunday mornings would inform you that a career as a race car driver is not totally out of the question—though she has no trail of speeding tickets to back up this premise for what policeman can bring himself to write up such an honest face??
Throughout the decades of my life, my mom has calmed me when I was scared, encouraged me when I was down, cheered for me when I tried and succeeded or tried and failed, helped me with my problems (from personal dilemmas to a soup that’s too salty), and shared the tears of my broken heart.  She always said that my siblings and I belonged to God who had given us to her as a trust, and she would do all she could to support God’s plans for our lives.  This belief was put to the test many times as she watched us board planes, trains, and automobiles to various destinations around the continent and globe on mission trips and other exciting adventures.  Her eyes would fill with tears as she waved goodbye and sparkle with joy when her strong hug heralded our safe return.

Though she is good at many things, my mom is best at loving—loving God, loving our dad, and loving us.  Her real-life relationship with Jesus and her close friendship with Him never left room for me to wonder if all this “God-stuff” might not be true.  My parent’s lives are the authentication of God’s all mighty presence and His power.  She adores my father and has showered him with love and respect for over half a century, and she has selflessly and unconditionally loved her kids.  Heaven only knows the many hours of prayer she has lifted on our behalf, and without a doubt, none of us would be who or where we are today had she not been constantly faithful to God and our family.
Every time I eat fried chicken I think of my mom and how she always took two pieces—the neck and the back.  (Some of you didn’t even know those were parts of the bird for the Colonel does not include them in his 8 or 10 piece buckets, but when you are from the South and you actually cut up and cook the chicken yourself, those pieces end up on the platter—as well as the pulley bone, but that’s for another time!)  When we would vainly attempt to get her to take a more meaty piece, she always replied that those were her favorites, but now that I’m a mom, I know better.  And I know the truth—she really wasn’t lying, for any sacrifice she made to give the best to those she loved the best made even a bony and barely-there cut of meat the one she desired the most.
I realize I am incredibly blessed to have shared so many years and so many wonderful times with my mom.  I know that we will spend forever together in heaven, and for that I am unexplainably grateful, but while we are still here on earth, I plan on making the most of every day—especially this Mother’s Day.  I think we’ll have fried chicken, and I think I’ll be the one who picks out her piece!

I love you, Mother!!  Lots!

 

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