The Path of Peace

“Make every effort to live in peace with all men.” Hebrews 12:14

No matter how hard you try, it’s hard to get along with everybody, but don’t let difficulty deter your endeavor. Instead, “Make every effort to live in peace with all men”(Heb. 12:14).

This command is an oft-repeated admonition in the New Testament with at least eight passages reminding us of our responsibility. Why the fuss? Because peace is the agenda of Jesus. He came to be our peace(Eph. 2:14) and to bring us peace(Jn. 14:27). How can the world see the peace of God if we aren’t at peace with others? Our desire to show God’s glory should press us to live in peace with all people.

Obviously, this isn’t easy. The word “effort” implies exertion and struggle. The word “every” suggests that success might not come on our first (or second) try. “Make every effort to live in peace with all men.” Sadly, some people will never be willing to restore a relationship and will always be contentious and caustic, but, “if it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone”(Rom. 12:18). You can’t control the actions and reactions of others, but you choose your own attitude and your own responses. Don’t let the ones slinging dirt bring you down. Take the high road and offer a hand to help them up.

Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—the result of God’s Spirit getting His way—go a long way in helping us get along. Pray for the ones who cause you problems and the ones who cause you pain. Ask God for wisdom and look to His Word for guidance. Certain situations require Christ-like confrontation, but most concerns which ruffle our feathers should be quickly smoothed by the grace of forgiveness.

Consider that perhaps the one who rubs you wrong isn’t always wrong, but, instead, maybe God is using him (or her) to sand off sharp edges in your own personality and character.

And remember that nothing disturbs the peace quite like good gossip, so think carefully about what you say and why you say it. Offenses should be dealt with at the source, not discussed with someone else. “Making every effort to live in peace” often means saying little when you want to say a lot. “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise”(Pro. 10:19).

Living in peace is the best and blessed way to live. Love generously. Forgive quickly. Speak wisely. Getting along with others isn’t effortless, but it’s worth the effort.